Disadvantages of interracial dating
The couple is frequently reminded that they are two separate people from different cultures that should not belong together.
Though mixed couples are often scrutinized and put under great pressure from their families and society, the trend of intermarriage will continue to grow and have a very positive affect on the families formed. Miller, an Asian woman, introduced her Caucasian boyfriend Jim to her family, she said, “He [her father] shook Jim’s hand and grunted while looking away when they were introduced.
Mixed couples become almost blind to their polar lifestyles and backgrounds after forming a serious relationship.
Unfortunately, these dissimilarities which begin to become insignificant to the couple are glaring to their families and society.
His behavior is understandable considering his past encounters with whites, and this is one of the reasons parents are apprehensive about intermarriage.
Another illustration of when parents are opposed to intermarriage occurred when an Arab man and a Jewish woman announced their relationship to their parents.
You become more aware of intolerance: We’ve seen a lot of intolerance in the news lately. You’ve likely heard some nasty things about Muslims and Palestinians. Be open to the possibility of interracial relationships.
As a college instructor, I was able to strike up friendships with several Palestinian students. Judge potential partners by their character, not by the color of their skin.
When you step out of your comfort zone, a result is increased knowledge and confidence.
‘My dad said he was worried I’d become the family’s servant,’ she says.
‘He had this ridiculous mental picture of his baby girl out working in a field for a bunch of white folks’” (132).
For the most part, parents of mixed couples do not accept inter-racial and inter-religious relationships, or are at least hesitant about the idea at first. At dinner, he ignored Jim completely, speaking only in Chinese to my aunt (who, incidentally, was surprised to discover he could even speak Chinese)” (Miller 80).
Miller’s father blatantly did not approve of his daughter dating a white male.